Imagine living in the world that Helen Keller found herself in nineteen months after
arriving on this planet. A world that was dark and silent as the result of a high fever
that eliminated her ability to see and hear. In her autobiography, Helen wrote,
"Then…came the illness which closed my eyes and ears and plunged me into the
unconsciousness of a newborn baby." By the time Anne Sullivan came along to
teach her, Helen's ability to communicate was confined to very basic gestures and
sounds.However, contrary to what circumstances would seem to dictate, Helen Keller went
on to design a life of her own choosing, on levels that took her to positions of
influence and prominence that are rarely reached. Have you ever wondered how
someone born in the small and insignificant town of Tuscumbia, Alabama, without
sight and hearing, learned how to consistently capture the minds and hearts of
those she came into contact with?Helen Keller left us some clues in her autobiography! She wrote, "Meanwhile the
desire to express myself grew. The few signs I used became less and less adequate,
and my failures to make myself understood were invariably followed by outbursts of
passion. I felt as if invisible hands were holding me, and I made frantic efforts to
free myself. I struggled-not that struggling helped matters, but the spirit of
resistance was strong within me; I generally broke down in tears and physical
exhaustion. After awhile the need of some means of communication became so
urgent that these outbursts occurred daily, sometimes hourly."The Right Teacher Makes The Difference. Period.You can imagine, then, just how pivotal the arrival of Anne Sullivan was to Helen
Keller's future. Anne Sullivan brilliantly transferred a power to Helen that Helen
would then use to build an extraordinary life. And what was that power?" It was, in
fact, the power of language…the power of language to bring about what we desire.
Ann Sullivan realized that to transform Helen from a little girl full of stress and
struggles into a fully functioning and powerful adult required her teaching Helen
how to communicate in a way that would support her desired outcomes.Despite the fact that Helen Keller, like all healthy human beings, was capable of
learning anything she desired, her first required step was for her to learn how to
communicate effectively with herself--and those around her. She had to learn how
to use words, and more than just words, to bring her desired future into being.
Helen's future depended upon her ability to tap into the power of language and
communication. Now, as she learned to do just that, and developed mastery in her
communications, she rose to positions of great influence, power and prominence…
all the while savoring the moments and experiences of her life—a life that she
literally languaged into existence.And how did Helen come to have such a life? The answer to that partially lies in
understanding that she had a profound desire to learn, and learn, and learn and
learn. And that profound desire led to one thing, and then to another, and then to
another, and then to another, all of which led up to a very remarkable life.And what does all this have to do with you? With me? Everything…or nothing. It is
our choice. We can open our eyes and ears to learn from Helen Keller, or not. She
faced seemingly insurmountable circumstances, and she simply learned her way
around all of them. And it all began with her learning the power of language--and
how to use language to design and build her desired future, word by word. You and
I can do the same.Perhaps there have been some things in your life that have not been as enjoyable or
as easy as you would like. Perhaps in the context of your relationships with your
significant other, or your children or your friends. Or in the context of your health,
your career, your dreams, your income, or your overall relationship with yourself.Why Some Things Are Not Yet Easy And Enjoyable For YouIf something has not been easy for you, it is simply an indication of something you
do not yet know! Period. It is an indication that you have not yet learned how to do
"X" easily and enjoyably. Nothing more. So, it is a matter of learning. And unlike
Helen Keller, you probably enjoy the gift of being able to see and hear what is
around you. So, you can learn all you want and do so quite rapidly and naturally.
Believe it or not! Either way, you are using the inherent power of language, are you
not? The power to move you in a certain direction.The question is, in what direction do you want to move towards? Understanding
that your ongoing communication with yourself and others, how you are languaging
your desires, your hopes and dreams, will determine the direction and pace of your
journey. What questions you ask-- and your responses to those questions-- give
direction to your brain and your unconscious mind. If you ask yourself, "Why did I
do that?" or "Why am I not further along in my life?" you will be off in a direction
that will take you into more disappointment and frustration.Instead, you might ask yourself, "How can I get a step closer to my outcome?" or
"What might make it easier and more enjoyable for me to become increasingly
healthy and fit?" "How can I connect more with those I love?" "What does my ideal
job look, feel and sound like?" Asking yourself questions like these give you energy
and build momentum. I imagine that Helen Keller, early on, asked herself why she
became blind and deaf…and I imagine that she learned quickly to ask herself more
useful questions instead. Perhaps questions such as, "How can I capitalize on what I
have?" "What do I want to do with what I have?" "How can I make a contribution to
others?" "How can I serve others and improve their lives, even in a small way?"
Perhaps these are the kind of questions that Helen Keller used to create the future
that she truly desired to live.Human beings, all of us, have an innate capacity to communicate on the most
powerful levels. What set Helen Keller apart wasn't only her willingness to learn but
also her discernment in recognizing the great teacher that Anne Sullivan was. The
wisdom that Helen demonstrated in choosing to be Anne's student is worthy of
consideration. Long before Helen was ready to teach the world, she was ready to be
taught. Helen was a brilliant student long before she was a renowned speaker and
teacher. To get to that point required Helen to exercise patience and wisdom.The Power of Simple Adjustments
To Change Your Life and FutureNow, what about you? What do you want to learn about the power of language and
how to language your future? You can learn to make a few simple adjustments in
your ongoing communications that will profoundly alter the outcomes you are able
to generate. Adjustments such as using clean language to keep everything that is in
the past…well, in the past. For instance, instead of saying to yourself, "Every time I
make a presentation at work, I freeze up," say to yourself, "Up until now, when I
have made presentations at work, I have frozen up." In the first instance, you
unintentionally would have "re-installed" the beliefs and behaviors that you do not
want. In the second instance, you appropriately recognize that what you have done
in the past is simply what is done and over with. Minimally you allow for the
possibility of something different happening! You make room for what you want.Another slight adjustment that would give you leverage is to use "cleaner" language.
Instead of saying, "Every time I make a presentation at work, I freeze up," say to
yourself, "It used to be, that when I made presentations at work, I often didn't do as
well as I would have liked. I am glad I can learn how to be a more effective
communicator." Notice how the two different statements generate different internal
experiences for you. And then realize that our internal experiences greatly affect
our external behaviors…and that our behaviors lead to our outcomes.This Puts The Odds In Your FavorWhat might be a likely response if you complained to your significant other, "We
never spend any time together. What is the matter with us?" On the other hand,
communicating what you do want instead is more likely to bring about a desirable
outcome… "I would like for us to spend some more time together this week. How
about going to a movie with me this Friday night?"When you communicate clearly what you desire-- to yourself and others-- you put
the odds greatly in your favor of getting what you desire. Most human beings
spend the vast majority of their time thinking about and making mental images of
what they do not want. And then they wonder why they keep getting more of what
they do not want! Our brain and our mind, on conscious and unconscious levels
will move towards the mental images we create. When someone says to themself, "I
just don't seem to have the money to get ahead," he or she makes mental pictures
of just that—not having enough money to get ahead--and unintentionally re-
installs the beliefs and behaviors that will create more of the same.Pay attention to what you communicate to yourself and others because you are
taking it all in unconsciously. More than that, you are literally programming your
future behaviors—the very behaviors that will generate outcomes. Why not decide
now that you will learn how to communicate to yourself and others on levels that
will make it easier and easier for you to generate the rewarding outcomes that you
deserve?For those of you who want to truly learn how to master the art of languaging your
future, give me a call, or drop me an e-mail at: alan@geniusdynamics.com.All the best,Alan Allard
678-778-9012
Atlanta, GaP.S. Let me know what is on your mind. I look forward to hearing from
you.P.S.S. I was just talking to a client who met with me for just one session
about a month ago. He expressed great surprise at how his life has changed so
much so quickly, and asked me how that was possible. What I told him was simply
that there are things that can be learned, and used with ease, that make all the
difference in the world. And if Helen Keller could learn what she did, without being
able to see and hear..Alan Allard, M.A., is a Life and Business Coach offering Private Coaching, Seminars
and Keynote Presentations. He teaches others how to rapidly achieve levels of
"unconscious competency" and to go well beyond their current level of success.
Alan has a Masters degree and post graduate training in Counseling, Clinical
Psychology and Family Therapy. He is also a Clinical Hypnotherapist. Free
"Accelerated Personal Change" Coaching e-Letter at:
http://www.geniusdynamics.com
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