Author : Faith Stewart
People feel the need to lie all the time. People pretend to be happy because nobody likes when a person is real. Everybody claims they like a real person but they like the opposite. Sometimes they say i like her because she's real, when in reality they like her better when she's telling her something that she wants to hear. People are really miserable being something they're not but no one will dare step out of place. No one will be themselves so much as to give a damn what anybody says. the world is full of rules and regulations. I want someone to get out of line and admit she's tired of faking to the world, admit how they really feel without really disobeying the orders of the world.I've found myself pleasing others on a regular basis. I've pleased my husband in so many ways like saying things I didn't want to say doing things I didn't want to do, and going to places I didn't want to go. it's like putting on an act that you can never give up. I choose to be honest even though that doesn't please anyone but me. It seems like pleasing me just isn't good enough. It's called being selfish when a person is supposed to look out for themselves. Taking care of yourself is the only way you can make it this life and your after life. Many people have noticed that while pleasing others they never are really pleasing themselves. Instead the people pleaser is standing in a corner looking at happy she has made someone yet she is worrying about is how much she's pleasing others and how unhappy she is.We have been conditioned to give away our power. Everytime we are people pleasing, we are giving away our power. Unlike, other people i feel bad after I people please because my needs aren't met. What bothers me about it is the fact, that after the person gets what they want, they don't give me a second look or don't care to even much ask how I'm doing or even support me in the way I'm feeling or monitor to my needs. Most people could give a damn about your beliefs, thoughts, or your feelings when it comes down to people pleasing. Let's say you have little to eat & you weren't even full, your younger siblings were hungry, so you decided to give them your last. You look at them eating your last, your stomach growling, they look happy enjoying what little they have. Yet there is no thank you even though their eating happily you're mad because your needs aren't met simply because you feel hungry because you didn't have a whole meal, they didn't say thank-you, and nobody is worrying about what you are thinking.Another example is if your husband wants you to go to a party at your sister-in-law's parents, you tell your husband that you don't wanna go because you need some leisure time from a hard week at work, he bugs you until your head is ready to explode, to go to this party. so you get dressed (not the way your hubby wants you to) because you aren't gonna be there long and because the place you're going to is only around the corner from your house. Not only are tired and despise going but you feel a little overdressed to be going to what seems like next door to you. You're tired of it, so you overdress and go to a place you don't even feel like going.
When you finally get there, again you are looking at how happy your husband is and looking deep inside you and how stupid you feel for not taking a stronger stand.I guess what I'm trying to say is try pleasing yourself before pleasing anybody else, think twice before making any decision, and look out for you once in a while.
Keyword : family, plans, rebellious, constructive criticism, friends, two word challenge, spirituality, sex,
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